Honestly I don’t get people that get hysterically riled by something someone writes. Two of my favorite blogs were attacked recently. Harsh Reality and Lucky Otter. Sure they may post blogs that are controversial. I have argued with both of them. We don’t always agree. That is what makes blogs interesting. Good grief if we all agreed on subjects we might as well just shut blogs down and all go home singing Cumbaya.
Being passionate I can understand, getting upset I can understand, not agreeing, thinking the other person is a total ass I can understand. It is the personal attacks I cannot understand.
Intelligent people do not resort to personal attacks to win arguments they find better arguments. Personal attacks are a good sign the person has blown the argument and is sending up smoke screens.
If you disagree with another blogger, walk away for awhile. That other blog ain’t going any where. Think about your argument, find data to backup your point of view. In other words grow the hell up.
People who do these personal attacks have no idea how much it turns the rest of us off. I tend to unfollow blogs like that because I can’t stand bullies and blowhards. I think a lot of us who quietly watch this nonsense feel when someone blows up and starts attacking someone else.
Recently I even saw how a persons wife was dragged into it. What kind of a vile coward brings a persons family into a damned internet argument?
You who are the victims of these sorts don’t bother to engage them. They are getting their entertainment by stalking and denigrating you. It is a form of control. Don’t let them have space in your head. They aren’t worth the time or effort. These people are in the minority let them shoot themselves down. It is bound to happen sooner or later.
The Third Largest Mental Health Care Problem
Social anxiety disorder (formerly termed “social phobia”) is a much more common problem than past estimates have led us to believe. Millions of people all over the world suffer from this devastating and traumatic condition every day, either from a specific social anxiety or from a more generalized social anxiety.
In the United States, epidemiological studies have recently pegged social anxiety disorder as the third largest psychological disorder in the country, after depression and alcoholism. It is estimated that about 7% of the population suffers from some form of social anxiety at the present time. The lifetime prevalence rate for developing social anxiety disorder is 13-14%.
Lucky Otter’s post on Introversion
I have always been painfully shy. Social Media has really been a God send for me. I can make friends without having to worry about how they perceive me physically. I am also not a physical person. My Italian family that I have by law have helped me to overcome that. They are so genuine that it seems normal but I wasn’t raised in that environment. Panic at large events is a big problem for me and I cannot stand being crushed but living in NYC and taking the subway helped me cope with it. It still isn’t very pleasant but at least I don’t have huge panic attacks and have to get off. When I moved here it was a huge problem getting to work. You can’t walk 25 miles back and forth every day. Taxis creep me out too. You can overcome it but it stays with you.
Really I don’t think of myself having a disorder just a challenge. Not everyone is a social butterfly. Being home with myself is wonderful I can go days without seeing another person with no problem at all. Others would go completely mad. I do live in my head a lot so maybe that is why. There is lots to do in my head.
Lucky Otter did a piece that I just read about introverts. This is probably most of what is me. If I spend my time with you, you are special. We aren’t really antisocial we just aren’t overly social. So if you have one of us in your life. Don’t drag us to concerts with thousands and wonder why we hate it. It is just the way we perceive the world. Also you with this same situation realize that not everyone is the same. Try to cope and you might just enjoy a social evening out.
You know what makes me happy? When someone discovers my blog because of another blogger’s generosity and then discovers a post that I forgot about and really enjoys it and I say to myself. Self that wasn’t half bad.