Nothing but a ghost

No heart has she,

Her soul is blank.

Empty as the sea,

dark and rank.

She lives in misery,

In swamps of hate.

There is no mystery,

of her soulless state.

She sucks the life

leaves nothing but venom.

Twists the knife

Into her victim.

Yet the joke you see is on her

Who she pains the most,

Emptiness to endure,

When you are nothing but a ghost.

 

Green Eyed Monster

It grabs you silently by the heart

Gives you a sudden start.

Fending off yet another

Possible, maybe lover.

Sexting, email all are suspect

Loss of all your own self-respect.

Chase them down give them misery

Such is your sad history.

Look in the mirror long and hard

Shatter your love shard by shard.

Can’t admit it is he that he┬ácheated

and made your love defeated.

The list goes on and on it seems

Shatters all your dreams.

The spikey tail of jealousy and its’ sting

You cannot cope, you cannot bring

Yourself to understand your love

Is not a sweet and gentle dove

But a poorly disguised rat

and it isn’t the others that

Betrayed you.

Dismayed you.

It was the viper in your breast

That destroyed your little nest.

 

 

Bullying, Cyberbullying and Mental Health.

Homer sympson bully

Bullying can have a devastating effect on mental health. People that already have mental issues or a condition that makes them ultrasensitive like Aspergers can sustain lasting damage from it. The pain of childhood bullying can follow a person well into adulthood. It can cause them to become introverted and affect their ability to perform with society and in the work place. It isn’t just kids teasing. Some of it is bordering on criminal behavior and unlike in the past the victim cannot escape. It is done everywhere. Social media while being a positive force also makes it possible for a person to be bullied 24/7. Never escaping. Imagine for a moment you are the victim. Every waking moment someone is tearing you down. Shredding your self esteem. With social media it can become like a witch hunt with keyboard warriors joining in the attack.

bullying and mental issues

Cyberbullying happens every day and every moment someone is a victim. There are those that do it as a sport, to make themselves seem better and bigger when all they are is small minded and mean. They ruin reputations and relationships with lies. They destroy careers and the work of years to build a life. Some will stop at nothing even making false police reports or statements about someone’s work or business or worse their sex life. About the only thing you can do is to report it to the social media or block the person saying such things. You cannot recover from the damage as it stays on the internet and is very difficult to remove.

bullies behind keyboard

Monitor your children on the internet. There should be no privacy where it is concerned. Bullies and perverts are every where looking for victims. Your kids may not like it but put the computer in a place where you can see what they are doing. You are their protector not their pal. If your child shows signs of being bullied such as less interest in social activities, isolation or change in personality including becoming more aggressive talk to them.

Talk about the dangers on line. You wouldn’t let them dial random numbers on the phone and talk to strangers this is the same thing. Explain to them that bullying is wrong and only people that are lacking do it. If someone is being bullied look at the bullys perhaps they could be the next victim. Love them enough to show them the path. You may uncover that they are a victim and be able to help.

BULLYING WHY?????

stop bullying

Two articles every parent and teacher and anyone else with a soul should read.

http://www.bullyingstatistics.org/content/bullying-and-suicide.html

http://www.centeronelderabuse.org/docs/6b.Bullying%20%20People%20with%20Disabilities.Arias.pdf

These are articles on the abuse of handicapped children in our schools and the suicide statistics for those that are bullied. This isn’t a part of growing up it is torture. What kind of a society is it when the weakest among us is not treated with kindness and respect? Where are all the adults? The teachers, parents and even people that see it happening? Why aren’t children taught that bullying is just wrong? I know that it happens because children and some grown people want to fit in with a crowd. That crowd mentality leaves out all humanity. If you see it happening, know of it, see it on Facebook and other social media stand up and be counted let’s let these lost, black souls know that the rest of us will not tolerate the abuse of the weak.
Every day people and children commit suicide, quit school, start drugs to escape this kind of torture. It isn’t funny it isn’t right and it is the wrong way to be popular.

Those that you are joining in to bully, others will eventually turn on you. If they are gossiping what makes you think you are bullet proof? Gossips gossip and they could care less about you. Do you bully gay people because down deep you might have an attraction to others? Wake up we can love who we like and that attraction may just be friendship you are throwing away. Someone is fat are you afraid you can catch it? It isn’t contagious you know. If they are thin maybe you feel you should be too. They have a handicap? What are you afraid of? They are already weaker than you. Maybe you are too big a coward to take on an able bodied person so you attack them. Think about it what is missing in you? What damage are you doing to your own personality when you do this to others. How do the silent majority see you? As ugly, mean and scary that’s how.

For you that get your jollies by abusing others whether children or adults I think you need to look deep in your soul to find out why you do it. Are you that inadequate? Lacking of any morals or feelings for others? Are you being bullied at home and this is the only way you can get satisfaction? Talk to a counsellor if you need help it is out there.

SPEAK UP. TALK TO AN ADULT. REPORT BULLYING. IT IS WRONG.

Just STOP!

Exhibitionist

Exhibitionist

I wonder what it is about social media that brings out the exhibitionist in some people. It can really become cringe worthy after awhile. So here is my rant about how much is too much to post.

Profile pictures seem to be just everything. I saw one with two men’s bare rear ends on a woman’s profile. Another had a BDSM picture of a woman. Now these profile pictures can be seen by anyone on the internet. They don’t last very long as they are sometimes so offensive they get reported and taken down like these two were. No one cares about your freaky sex life except for your significant other and maybe a couple hundred of your social media friends. Please share it with them not the rest of us. I have seen naked men’s butts they are hairy and do not make good profile pictures.

There seems to be a lack of a filter of common sense with some of the stuff that is posted. Personal stuff about relations, affairs, sexual proclivities. All on a public profile. People there is a little button you can click to make these things to your friends only. One assumes your friends are into the same sort of fun. That is fine I like a bit of spice as well as another person I just would choose not to share it with the world. If you are being cheated on dump them or keep them it is up to you but don’t discuss it with the rest of us. Honestly it is your PERSONAL problem. Think they cheated with someone else. Deal with them don’t drag out your ridiculous drama all over for others to see. Besides nobody can take someone else unless they want to go WAKE UP!

Some also put every picture they can post publicly of their children. Pedophiles are rampant on the internet. Why you would put those pictures for every stranger on social media is totally beyond me. Again try that little button. Share your wonderful kids, pets etc. with your friends people that you supposedly have some idea who they are. Also bear in mind that your pictures can be copied and used in places you probably don’t want them to be. You don’t want to see that wonderful picture of your children on some pedophile site.

Another older lady put where her city was and posted a huge diamond ring to brag to the world about her station in life. No doubt her name and address is in the local phone book. I only hope she has an alarm system in her house. She is going to need it. People put all kinds of personal information on their profiles including where they work and live. Social media is a stalkers paradise. Don’t feed them the information to stalk you unless you really need friends that badly.

Recently the US military informed their members that ISIS is stalking social media to find military members to attack. Don’t put your unit and pictures in uniform on your page. We know you are proud to be US military. We are proud of you too but want you to remain safe so use a filter. Make your profile as private as possible.

The rest of us also don’t want to know every detail about your personal life. Share your medical problems with your friends and family or don’t that is even better. People tire of that after awhile as they do all the poor me posts you put on your social media. The bottom line is use some common sense. There are almost a billion people on Facebook alone. Do you really want everyone of them to know your business???

tmi social media

Stay safe everyone. Think about what you post.

Sociopathic Lying Pseudologia Fantastica and Mythomania

Liars shaw

In psychiatry, pathological lying (also called compulsive lying, pseudologia fantastica and mythomania) is a behavior of habitual or compulsive lying.It was first described in the medical literature in 1891 by Anton Delbrueck. Pathological lying has been defined as “falsification entirely disproportionate to any discernible end in view, may be extensive and very complicated, and may manifest over a period of years or even a lifetime”. The individual may be aware they are lying, or may believe they are telling the truth, being unaware that they are relating fantasies.

Little has been written about pathological lying but studies show that it has a prevalence of almost 1 in 1,000. It usually starts with juveniles at the age of 16 years. 30% have has a chaotic home environment where a parent or family member had a mental disturbance.

The stories told are usually dazzling or fantastical, but never breach the limits of plausibility, which is key to the pathological liar’s tack. The tales are not a manifestation of delusion or some broader type of psychosis; upon confrontation, the teller can admit them to be untrue, even if unwillingly.
The fabricative tendency is chronic; it is not provoked by the immediate situation or social pressure so much as it is an innate trait of the personality. There is some element of dyscontrol present.
A definitely internal, not an external, motive for the behavior can be discerned clinically: e.g., long-lasting extortion or habitual spousal battery might cause a person to lie repeatedly, without the lying being a pathological symptom.
The stories told tend toward presenting the liar favorably. The liar decorates their own person by telling stories that present them as the hero or the victim. For example, the person might be presented as being fantastically brave, as knowing or being related to many famous people, or as having great power, position, or wealth.It can also portray them as a victim of diabolical plots.

Pathological lying may also present as false memory syndrome, where the sufferer genuinely believes that fictitious (imagined) events have taken place. Sometimes when the lie gets a life of it’s own the sufferer begins to believe the delusion them selves.

Because pathological lying has not been recognized as a disorder it can be difficult to diagnose. There are many other disorders that can account for it such as Psychopathy, antisocial, borderline, narcissistic and histrionic disorders.

When a lie detector is used it can show that the pseudologia fantastica patients exhibit arousal, stress and guilt from the deception. Psychopaths have none of these reactions.

PF sufferers often lie because they think their lives are boring and they need to make themselves more interesting. Pathological lying is also Factor 1 in the Hare Psychopathy checklist.

People need to be aware of these personalities as they can wreck their own and others lives with their stories. Reputations and relations suffer greatly because of them. So in conclusion if the lie seems fantastic it probably is. Always question the reasons behind the story. Sometimes things just aren’t what they seem and Narcissists and Sociopaths are very good at all of this. It is used quite often in social media to boost the pathological liars status among their friends. Also in real life these lies can be used to denigrate others and show the pathological liar in a more favorable light.

Facebook Fascination

Betty White FB

via Funny Facebook Banners – Bing Images.

Facebook 1.35 BILLION active users, 72% of adults are on Facebook once a month, active daily users 864 million. What is the draw? How come we spend so much time on that site? Whole communities are alive and are busy every day. Some of our friends there are more real than the ones in real life. Is it because we can really be what we want? Share as much or as little as we want to? Express ourselves? Get validation from people when we don’t get it that much from the world around us?

MySpace once the juggernaut of social media now is a music sharing social network. Google + seems to not really encourage social interaction that I can see. Many other social networks have sprung up and yet Facebook remains the standard and the leader. Even after policies which have made it less social, the pushing of Fan pages which really are worthless in a social environment. People who at one time could be their pets or other characters must now use their “real” names. Never mind that most of them are made up. Some can have three or four in their “real” names just by changing them around a bit and getting a new email account.

Since going public with shareholders the advertising has really run amok. Posts pop up in the middle of news feeds selling things that Facebook from watching you thinks you want. It is all getting a bit creepy really. My news now is coming from “pages” that I have no idea who is behind them. Pages allow people to hide behind them. You can say or insinuate anything you want to from a page. The truth usually has nothing to do with it. Hideous things are on pages but because of “free speech” they are allowed to infiltrate the Facebook experience.

Bullies do what ever they want, attack anyone they want, take pictures from peoples profiles and use them without any permission. I will no longer publish any pictures of myself as they have been used to attack me. It has happened to several of my friends as well. Nothing is done.

Sooner or later there will be another social network. One where once again we can be social unmolested by people that get their kicks from denigrating others. Remember when AOL was the only browser around?? It is only a matter of time before Facebook is challenged. I doubt they really care. They now have their advertising engine which will keep chugging around with or without most of us. Younger people are already leaving in droves for Snapchat, Instagram and others. It will be very interesting to see what the future brings.

Ignoring a narcissist. The best revenge.

drama mask

http://getoveranarcissist.com/no-contact-narcissist/

This is an excellent article. I just had my narcissist-victim-stalker attack me on a blog yet once again. Stupidly I thought my pictures on Facebook were safe I did do them to friends only. Well one of those friends must not be a friend because there low and behold on her blog is a picture of me, another one of her victims and my clueless husband all being called “haters”. Hate I don’t hate you I think you are a pathetic excuse for a human. How dare we enjoy ourselves at a Garlic Festival the horror!!

The problem with this poor soul is that she is so empty and void of human empathy and emotion she needs to continuously make dramatic posts. Never mind that they are rambling, ridiculous and pointless just keep posting. Well if my photo with my friends having fun at a Garlic Festival of all things makes her life complete I wish her joy in it.

Sorry I am not getting in your drama you really need to find someone that is willing to play along as none of your former victims and former friends turned into your victims are interested any more.

I know that the absence of people paying attention to you is tearing you apart but perhaps you can find a hobby. Maybe that will fill your empty place but we are not going to be your fellow players in the drama of your boring life.

So the point of this post is to not get in their drama. Let them revolve alone in their orbit as that is where they live anyway. Otherwise you will keep being annoyed and sometimes worse attacked physically. This thing lives in another country so at least that is not my concern. I can just continue to enjoy my life with my friends and let her wallow in her misery. Hmmmmmm maybe next stop an Apple Festival I really enjoy the wild life don’t I??

Peace out dear friends hope you have a happy drama free day.