I used to Care

I used to care as Bob has said

whether you were alive or dead

the time has gone, the time has passed

I used to care but it didn’t last.

For who I thought you were was all a dream

All smoke and mirrors, you behind a screen.

The Wizard it turned out had no soul

Just manipulation was her goal.

Oh I used to care, I really did

But now has come the time to rid

Myself of you my psychopathic friend

For all good and bad things come to an end.

Truth will out and mirrors break

The smoke will clear and finally take

Away your veils, and show for what you are

Nothing much, and from afar

You are breaking up, breaking down

Nobody left around

For when there is nothing there but a shell

It only takes time to tell

and then we will stand and dare

To tell you we no longer care.

 

 

 

Sociopathic Lying Pseudologia Fantastica and Mythomania

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In psychiatry, pathological lying (also called compulsive lying, pseudologia fantastica and mythomania) is a behavior of habitual or compulsive lying.It was first described in the medical literature in 1891 by Anton Delbrueck. Pathological lying has been defined as “falsification entirely disproportionate to any discernible end in view, may be extensive and very complicated, and may manifest over a period of years or even a lifetime”. The individual may be aware they are lying, or may believe they are telling the truth, being unaware that they are relating fantasies.

Little has been written about pathological lying but studies show that it has a prevalence of almost 1 in 1,000. It usually starts with juveniles at the age of 16 years. 30% have has a chaotic home environment where a parent or family member had a mental disturbance.

The stories told are usually dazzling or fantastical, but never breach the limits of plausibility, which is key to the pathological liar’s tack. The tales are not a manifestation of delusion or some broader type of psychosis; upon confrontation, the teller can admit them to be untrue, even if unwillingly.
The fabricative tendency is chronic; it is not provoked by the immediate situation or social pressure so much as it is an innate trait of the personality. There is some element of dyscontrol present.
A definitely internal, not an external, motive for the behavior can be discerned clinically: e.g., long-lasting extortion or habitual spousal battery might cause a person to lie repeatedly, without the lying being a pathological symptom.
The stories told tend toward presenting the liar favorably. The liar decorates their own person by telling stories that present them as the hero or the victim. For example, the person might be presented as being fantastically brave, as knowing or being related to many famous people, or as having great power, position, or wealth.It can also portray them as a victim of diabolical plots.

Pathological lying may also present as false memory syndrome, where the sufferer genuinely believes that fictitious (imagined) events have taken place. Sometimes when the lie gets a life of it’s own the sufferer begins to believe the delusion them selves.

Because pathological lying has not been recognized as a disorder it can be difficult to diagnose. There are many other disorders that can account for it such as Psychopathy, antisocial, borderline, narcissistic and histrionic disorders.

When a lie detector is used it can show that the pseudologia fantastica patients exhibit arousal, stress and guilt from the deception. Psychopaths have none of these reactions.

PF sufferers often lie because they think their lives are boring and they need to make themselves more interesting. Pathological lying is also Factor 1 in the Hare Psychopathy checklist.

People need to be aware of these personalities as they can wreck their own and others lives with their stories. Reputations and relations suffer greatly because of them. So in conclusion if the lie seems fantastic it probably is. Always question the reasons behind the story. Sometimes things just aren’t what they seem and Narcissists and Sociopaths are very good at all of this. It is used quite often in social media to boost the pathological liars status among their friends. Also in real life these lies can be used to denigrate others and show the pathological liar in a more favorable light.

Fantasy Land

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Doing the research on this blog made me start thinking about people that live in a Fantasy Land. Fantasists are in the Narcissist, Sociopath and even the Borderline Personality. It made me wonder why even when these people are shown that their ideas are just not probable or even possible they still cling to them. Fantastic ideas become their entire world as real as unicorns and pixies these ideas become fact to them. Why? What kind of mind is it that cannot see reality? Well low and behold there is a mental condition for that too!

The FANTASY PRONE PERSONALITY

This is a personality in which a person has a lifelong extensive involvement in fantasy. It can also be described as an “overactive imagination”. Someone with this trait is termed a “fantasizer”. ¬†They often have difficulty in differentiating between fantasy and reality. They may also have other self-suggested psychosomatic symptoms. This can also be a trait of the Narcissist¬†as they live in their own world constructed and ruled by them.

They may have dissaociation and sexual fantasies. People with FPP are reported to spend over half their time fantasizing or daydreaming. They often mix these fantasies with real memories.

CHARATERISTICS

1. Excellent hypnotic subject (most but not always)

2. having imaginary childhood friends

3. often fantasizing in childhood

4. having a fantasy identity

5. experiencing imagined sensations as real

6. vivid sensory perceptions

7. reputed paranormal experiences (claiming psychic powers, encountering apparitions,being able to cast spells, having out of body experiences and other like events)

8. mystical experiences

9. believe they have special powers

10. Hypnotic hallucinations (waking dreams)

11. receiving sexual satisfaction without physical stimulation

The childhood is often spent in fantasy with dolls etc being perceived as real and encouraged by adults in the child’s life.

Some of the implications of this personality are:

1. false pregnancy

2. Maladaptive daydreaming

3. Parapsychology

I found this extremely interesting and it explains a lot about the Narcissistic preoccupation with self. Perhaps it will help explain why they cannot see beyond themselves. They live in a fantasy world only occupied with themselves and their perceptions. Reality seldom comes into it.