Welcome little spy

get smart phone

You think I don’t see you?

You think I am naive.

Slinking around on your belly

while your curiosity you relieve

Say hello to your little friends

I know they are here too.

I know you see

By the things that you do.

You are silly and strange

Bought really cheap

Information you arrange

To send them you creep.

The stalker can’t do it

The law won’t allow

So you do it yourself

You idiot cow.

 

 

Exhibitionist

Exhibitionist

I wonder what it is about social media that brings out the exhibitionist in some people. It can really become cringe worthy after awhile. So here is my rant about how much is too much to post.

Profile pictures seem to be just everything. I saw one with two men’s bare rear ends on a woman’s profile. Another had a BDSM picture of a woman. Now these profile pictures can be seen by anyone on the internet. They don’t last very long as they are sometimes so offensive they get reported and taken down like these two were. No one cares about your freaky sex life except for your significant other and maybe a couple hundred of your social media friends. Please share it with them not the rest of us. I have seen naked men’s butts they are hairy and do not make good profile pictures.

There seems to be a lack of a filter of common sense with some of the stuff that is posted. Personal stuff about relations, affairs, sexual proclivities. All on a public profile. People there is a little button you can click to make these things to your friends only. One assumes your friends are into the same sort of fun. That is fine I like a bit of spice as well as another person I just would choose not to share it with the world. If you are being cheated on dump them or keep them it is up to you but don’t discuss it with the rest of us. Honestly it is your PERSONAL problem. Think they cheated with someone else. Deal with them don’t drag out your ridiculous drama all over for others to see. Besides nobody can take someone else unless they want to go WAKE UP!

Some also put every picture they can post publicly of their children. Pedophiles are rampant on the internet. Why you would put those pictures for every stranger on social media is totally beyond me. Again try that little button. Share your wonderful kids, pets etc. with your friends people that you supposedly have some idea who they are. Also bear in mind that your pictures can be copied and used in places you probably don’t want them to be. You don’t want to see that wonderful picture of your children on some pedophile site.

Another older lady put where her city was and posted a huge diamond ring to brag to the world about her station in life. No doubt her name and address is in the local phone book. I only hope she has an alarm system in her house. She is going to need it. People put all kinds of personal information on their profiles including where they work and live. Social media is a stalkers paradise. Don’t feed them the information to stalk you unless you really need friends that badly.

Recently the US military informed their members that ISIS is stalking social media to find military members to attack. Don’t put your unit and pictures in uniform on your page. We know you are proud to be US military. We are proud of you too but want you to remain safe so use a filter. Make your profile as private as possible.

The rest of us also don’t want to know every detail about your personal life. Share your medical problems with your friends and family or don’t that is even better. People tire of that after awhile as they do all the poor me posts you put on your social media. The bottom line is use some common sense. There are almost a billion people on Facebook alone. Do you really want everyone of them to know your business???

tmi social media

Stay safe everyone. Think about what you post.

Sociopathic Lying Pseudologia Fantastica and Mythomania

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In psychiatry, pathological lying (also called compulsive lying, pseudologia fantastica and mythomania) is a behavior of habitual or compulsive lying.It was first described in the medical literature in 1891 by Anton Delbrueck. Pathological lying has been defined as “falsification entirely disproportionate to any discernible end in view, may be extensive and very complicated, and may manifest over a period of years or even a lifetime”. The individual may be aware they are lying, or may believe they are telling the truth, being unaware that they are relating fantasies.

Little has been written about pathological lying but studies show that it has a prevalence of almost 1 in 1,000. It usually starts with juveniles at the age of 16 years. 30% have has a chaotic home environment where a parent or family member had a mental disturbance.

The stories told are usually dazzling or fantastical, but never breach the limits of plausibility, which is key to the pathological liar’s tack. The tales are not a manifestation of delusion or some broader type of psychosis; upon confrontation, the teller can admit them to be untrue, even if unwillingly.
The fabricative tendency is chronic; it is not provoked by the immediate situation or social pressure so much as it is an innate trait of the personality. There is some element of dyscontrol present.
A definitely internal, not an external, motive for the behavior can be discerned clinically: e.g., long-lasting extortion or habitual spousal battery might cause a person to lie repeatedly, without the lying being a pathological symptom.
The stories told tend toward presenting the liar favorably. The liar decorates their own person by telling stories that present them as the hero or the victim. For example, the person might be presented as being fantastically brave, as knowing or being related to many famous people, or as having great power, position, or wealth.It can also portray them as a victim of diabolical plots.

Pathological lying may also present as false memory syndrome, where the sufferer genuinely believes that fictitious (imagined) events have taken place. Sometimes when the lie gets a life of it’s own the sufferer begins to believe the delusion them selves.

Because pathological lying has not been recognized as a disorder it can be difficult to diagnose. There are many other disorders that can account for it such as Psychopathy, antisocial, borderline, narcissistic and histrionic disorders.

When a lie detector is used it can show that the pseudologia fantastica patients exhibit arousal, stress and guilt from the deception. Psychopaths have none of these reactions.

PF sufferers often lie because they think their lives are boring and they need to make themselves more interesting. Pathological lying is also Factor 1 in the Hare Psychopathy checklist.

People need to be aware of these personalities as they can wreck their own and others lives with their stories. Reputations and relations suffer greatly because of them. So in conclusion if the lie seems fantastic it probably is. Always question the reasons behind the story. Sometimes things just aren’t what they seem and Narcissists and Sociopaths are very good at all of this. It is used quite often in social media to boost the pathological liars status among their friends. Also in real life these lies can be used to denigrate others and show the pathological liar in a more favorable light.

Internet Scammers and Facebook Frauds

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One of my Facebook friends started a very funny thread about a Nigerian having sent her an email that she had millions of dollars coming to her and just needed to send a small fee. We had a lot of laughs but it made me start thinking. As long as humans have had anything worth stealing scammers have existed. No doubt the first person to discover berry bushes got scammed out of most of their berries by a cave dwelling neredowell that saw easy pickings. May have told her he knew of a bigger berry patch that could be hers just for handing over her basket of hard earned picked berries.

Today scammers have gone global with the internet and social media platforms like Facebook. I sat stunned watching Dr. Phil one day while one elderly woman after the other told how they met the love of their lives. Usually handsome middle aged white guys living in another country usually Africa that needed help getting their fortunes out of the country and had fallen madly in love with them. One poor soul watched as her elderly mother told him how she gave her life savings of over $600,000 to one of these. It boggles the mind of how easily they were taken in but are the rest of us not much better? Greed and fantasy sometimes overwhelms our good sense. Who hasn’t fallen for the Facebook color scheme hoax or one of the many sick children hoaxes that are all over the internet? Let’s all be honest at one time or the other we have fallen victim. Usually it is just a harmless hoax but sometimes these are vehicles for trojans or other viruses or ways to get our personal information.

These are the top ten internet frauds:

Phishing scams these are emails that pretend to be someone else to get your information. Be very wary of any emails that show up from banks, credit cards etc. If you look at the link take a good look at where it comes from. That will appear in your search bar. If you get anything from a bank etc. Do not click on the link email or call the institution and ask them about it. This is a very old scam and dangerous as they will ask for you information and once given can raise havoc with your identity and finances.

Nigerian 419 Scam these have been around so long that my friends joke was that she heard that she had won a lot of money and only had to send a fee of a couple of thousand dollars. Sadly a lot of people have been taken in by these and other similar scams. If someone asks you for money to get money it is a scam. I had this pulled on me at a bank a person outside stopped me and said that they were illegal and had a lot of money coming in could I just give them the cash and they would give me their check. I told them let’s just go in the bank and take care of it there. Of course they declined.

Greeting Card Scams these arrive in email pretending to be from a friend or family member. Once the link is clicked a trojan is launched on your computer or other malicious software. Never click on something that is suspicious. Call the family member and ask.

Shopper needed check fraud these as well as other check frauds are in all kinds of guises. They ask that the recipient cash a check and then forward part of the funds to the sender. Of course the check is bogus and the recipient is left holding the bag. If you get a check like this show it to your bank. They can usually tell you if it is a fraud. Also people don’t just send random people checks. Use your common sense.

Reshipping and Payment processing frauds these ask people to process payments through their bank it is also called money laundering. Again people don’t send people money for nothing.

Lottery Winning Scams If someone tells you that you won a lottery you never enterred why would you believe it?? Don’t.

Pump and dump stock scams again if someone offers insider information on a stock think twice. It means the price is being pumped up fraudulently then dumped leaving the other stockholders holding the bag. Usually you.

Fraudulent link scams Be very careful about any link you click specially on social media for so called fun apps for instance changing Facebook colors and others these usually contain malware that can ruin your computer or worse take it over.

Killer Spam: If someone emails you that a hitman is after you go directly to the police. It usually is a scam and wants to extort money. If it isn’t then why take chances. Regular people are not targets of hitmen. This isn’t Goodfellas.

Scareware Scams: This will pop up claiming that the system is infected and instructs the user to click on the link to clean the bogus infection. Do not do it. When you do you get an advertising bug or worse. Never install any software except from a certified provider. If you don’t understand this get a friend to help you. If you download something that is not it can ruin your computer or steal information.

These are the top ten. Since I am a lady of a certain age I know that a lot of you in the same boat can be victims of these scams. Please be careful. Also you must be very careful of how much information you put on your social media. Make all your information private. Hide your friends list and photos. Never, ever, ever take any romantic overtures as real unless you meet the person and then only with a couple of friends in a very public place. Social media is a haven for frauds of all kinds. It is perfect. You can be anyone and claim anything. You have all been on this Earth long enough to know that what seems to good to be true usually is and nobody gets something for nothing.

Thanks for reading and please stay safe.