The funny thing about secrets, the harder we try to hide things, the more likely they are to surface. Covering your tracks by telling more stories can muddy the waters or it can point straight back to you. The more secrets you have the more you have to cover. The more you have to cover the more mixed up you get. So the best way to be really is up front and honest. Then you don’t get tangled up in your own web. Secrets can be toxic things they can strangle relationships.
When people in relationships and friendships share secrets that is wonderful unless one of them wants attention badly. That is when the whole thing can go upside down. Remember when dealing with others, those that gossip with you will most probably gossip about you. When relationships go south all those little secrets can come tumbling out. A lot of times people who have been your enemy become your friends and your friends become your enemies. Therefore be very careful of anything you share.
In currying favor with new friends, old friends will use your secrets and even embellish them. Kissed a boy? Well, they will make it spicier and say you had sex. Shoplifted when you were ten? It becomes you spent time in prison for theft. Said something about someone else in anger? That will be embellished to make that other person hate you for sure. Have a mental illness or one in your family? Well, you are mental for sure. You have to be don’t you? That whole thing with genetics you know. Crazy as the rest of them. Used a little pot? Must be a raging drug addict. You get my point. Anything said can be embellished and stretched until you can’t even recognize the original secret.
Anything you say can be twisted and used. Secrets are fine things when they remain secrets. When they become more they can be vicious weapons used on the foolish and unwary.
How did I become so wise about the subject of secrets? That is an easy one. I foolishly trusted others. It happens more often than you would think. People that I felt cared about me. They didn’t. End of story.