Do Not Set Yourself on Fire to Keep Your Partner Warm and Comfortable

I think the operative word here is partner if you are treated as less than you aren’t a partner.

GentleKindness

save yourself memeYou do not have to tolerate unfair treatment and unreasonable demands from your partner. If you are not being listened to and your needs are not being heard then you will begin to lose your feeling of worthiness.

Your thoughts and feelings matter. You should have a partner that listens and cares about your needs. Your needs are as important in a relationship as the other person’s are.

The longer you stay in a relationship where someone else’s needs are always the priority the more you will become invisible. The more invisible you feel , the lower your self esteem will get. The lower your self esteem gets, the more you will become dependent on the toxic partner.

The more dependent you feel on them, the harder it will be to leave them. The more they realize that they have been successful in their efforts to make you become dependent…

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T-R-A-V-E-L

So much truth in this.

Morning Story and Dilbert

Morning Story and Dilbert Vintage Dilbert
March 13, 1993

Inmate Mitchell King had a visitor — his wife. King was serving a six-year jail term in Auckland, New Zealand for armed robbery. But his wife did not want to be away from him for that long. So they held hands… and they stuck. She had rubbed her palms with Super Glue. Their new-found closeness was short-lived. And their separation was painful.

This technique is not recommended for a “close relationship.” But if you want more closeness… if you desire relationships that are deeper and broader, more meaningful and longer-lasting, then remember the acronym for “TRAVEL.”

T is for TRUST – 
Trust is the glue that holds people together (not Super Glue). A relationship will go nowhere without it.

R is for RESPECT 
- “Do not save your loving speeches for your friends till they are dead; do not write them on their tombstones, speak…

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Treasured Girlfriends

Klimt Girl friends

Painting by Klimt – Girlfriends

Is there nothing more precious in life

Than close friends, kindred souls

That no evil, no knife

Can separate shared goals.

My girlfriends and me.

Hours of talking

Of what was to be

and has been while walking.

Sometimes we fight yes it’s true.

All close souls do;

But finally at then end,

We know that this true friend

Will be there for us all.

When we rise or when we fall.

To catch us or to rejoice,

With each soul a shared voice.

Yes my women friends and me,

To be treasured

and all through life measured

with our most private thoughts

Lifes tumbles each bout

Until one day, one of us is no more

and we cannot be as before.

Anatomy of a Dog Forum Shit-Show

This gave me a giggle it is amazing how freaked out people get in these conversations.

The Dog Snobs

We’ve all been there, right?  When a seemingly benign thread on an online dog forum goes from zero to crazypants in 6 seconds flat.   Although it may sometimes seem like the mayhem comes out of nowhere, if you look carefully enough, there are a few universal steps that happen (often in rapid fire sequence) before a thread explodes.

1. Someone asks a seemingly benign enough question on a dog forum (These questions may in fact be the work of an advanced troll who prides themselves on stirring up shit or they may actually be some poor sad sack who has no idea what they’ve just started). Think “What type of food should I feed my dog?” or “What is the best kind of training?”. Pro forum users can usually spot these topic from a mile away and quickly run to get popcorn and something boozy while they wait for the…

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