No woman should put a man above her men and women should be partners nobody should be “in charge”. Narcissists look for women that don’t value themselves and need a man to make them feel complete. Men who don’t value themselves or have had narcissistic mothers will look for those very traits in a woman and the narcissistic woman will hone in on it. Once caught you are the slave the less than nothing. The source of adoration for their over inflated egos. The cure for this is self love. Everyone should love and respect themselves because if you don’t how can you truly love someone else.
Ru Paul has it so right. Being a man who portrays a woman and does a magnificent job of it she embodies the traits of both. Full of self confidence and glamour she is her own person. We should all be that way. Man, woman love yourself enough that you don’t take crap from anyone. If you truly like a dominant person yet still love yourself then go for it. Just make sure that it is not at the cost of your self esteem.
Narcissists and sociopaths are brilliant at finding the needy they put you on a pedestal treat you better than anyone else has ever treated you. Makes you feel on top of the world, adored. Well now that you have them you don’t need others. Slowly you become isolated. Then the mask drops and you are trapped. People with good self esteem recognize that they are being cut off from the people and things they enjoy and will cut the relation off even if it is painful. The needy stay. It will get better. They don’t mean it. I know they love me. On and On think about it.
If the person you are with doesn’t treasure you and treat you with respect it is time to hit the road. It is better to be alone with a person (you ) that truly loves you than to be used as a source of entertainment, amusement and support of their egos.
In closing more words from Mae that said it far better than I could have.