Narcissist Achilles Heel

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I just read a very eloquent article by a really brilliant woman. You may know her.
http://luckyottershaven.com/2015/03/07/my-friendship-with-a-famous-narcissist-is-over/

This is her article I did reblog but I wanted to go further than that. What made this wonderful, caring brilliant woman care about an avowed narcissist who openly has great distain for women and people in general? She really cared about him and thought she could help him. This exact nature of hers to care about others is what entrapped her in his web. Back an forth he supported then he withdrew. He found out about her interest in narcissism from Googling his own name for heaven sake!! I made an innocuous comment and of course like the humorless narcissist he is he took offense. Instead of telling me off he went after her and blamed her for my words. If you are so proud of yourself being an uncaring narc what do you care what some elderly lady that is friends with her and has a little blog says? Was it worth attacking a person that genuinely cared about you? Really? How really shallow can a person be.

I feel sorry for him. I genuinely feel sorry for people that are so very self involved they can’t let others in that might care. They might even be a lesson in humanity but since he is a self involved narc which if his movie is to be believed is not really the case (yes I watched it I find him interesting too. kind of like an exotic bug be careful you don’t get bitten!). It is really unclear what he is tests have shown he is not a true narcissist. I assume it is convenient to be one when you are an author and authority on all the narcissists in the entire world. Also when you want to sell books taking advantage of an admirer doesn’t hurt either.

Women who find these sorts attractive are usually carers. They are nurturers. When the relationship starts they are worshipped and adored. The sociopath/narcissist can read people very easily and they mirror whatever their prey wants to see. It is not the woman’s fault. Once the relationship gets going she is the supplier, the stroker of ego, the validation of their God like obsession with themselves. They find themselves isolated as the puppet master is now in charge and wants no one to interfere. If the object refuses to do this and to worship them as they feel they must they are abandoned on a whim (or the remark of a smart ass friend). I have never wanted to hurt anyone with my humor I use it more to show the ridiculousness of a situation. I am also sorry he is so self involved that he hurt a lady that was nothing but kind to him and cared. It is his very great loss.

His Achilles heel is someone who cares and eventually he tears them apart and throws them away as valueless. After all who could care about someone like him? He thinks he is the one of no value. You see you really can’t hide the truth from yourself sooner or later it will surface. Maybe he will face it one day but I doubt it. He is having too good a time being miserable. Even with a damaged brain that does not function normally caring about others can be perceived and imitated. The Narcissist does a good job of that when they are drawing in their prey. Maybe he could use that same talent to join in the world and enjoy some of it. Treating people like puppets in a play must get really old after awhile. We can only hope as he is aging that he gets that clue. As for Otter she learned a lesson and will move on. No doubt helping others that deserve the help.

30 comments

  1. luckyotter · March 8, 2015

    Wow, you really called him out on his BS! Thanks. It really is so sad because his brilliant mind would be of so much more value if he tried to help himself somehow. He’s intelligent and insightful but just doesn’t care how others feel, only how he feels.

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    • Gale A. Molinari · March 8, 2015

      Someone needs to point out the Emperor is naked. He needs to hide his true self better. It is pretty easy to see right through his sociopathic self.

      Liked by 1 person

  2. idodoyouride · March 8, 2015

    your very right it is kind caring people who are targets for a narcissist. seems to be the way it works. dont wait around for this guy to get better with age it doesnt work that way they get worse. you cant help a narcissist they dont believe their is anything wrong with themselves. lucky otter if you read this dont waste your kind heart on such a person no amount of love or help will make him change. he is broken.

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    • luckyotter · March 8, 2015

      He is broken, and you can cut yourself trying to fix a broken person.

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      • idodoyouride · March 8, 2015

        yes you can time better spent on healing yourself. you go girl

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      • luckyotter · March 8, 2015

        I just needed a few bandaids and a lot of sleep. I’m fine now. I learned a great lesson. Thanks for the encouragement!

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      • idodoyouride · March 8, 2015

        we have learned by experience nothing wrong with that. im glad you are feeling better.

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      • luckyotter · March 8, 2015

        I am too.

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      • Gale A. Molinari · March 8, 2015

        Glad to hear it. He isn’t worth losing a good blog!

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    • Danni Smith · February 17, 2016

      true-they do get worse. What would you say about a 68 year old man who lives with someone and cheats on her while she supports him and his two sons. What would you say to the fact that he deceives these other women into believing he is single and available. What would you say if I told you this guy married his first wife twice, the second time to get her Illinois teacher’s pension in a divorce while he flaunted another married and co-cheating woman in her face. Add this up-money, enough to live comfortably coming from two women he cheated upon. Then add this in, the current women knows and still tolerates him. And she is 69 years old. I don’t know what to think.

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      • Gale A. Molinari · March 6, 2016

        I think she is 69 years old and can make her own decisions as bad as this one is. You just can’t fix stupid and people see what they want to. Sometimes it is a symbiotic relationship. He is pathetic but probably doesn’t see himself that way.

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      • idodoyouride · March 8, 2016

        I would say GOOD BY !!!

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      • Gale A. Molinari · March 8, 2016

        Best thing to do as it doesn’t get better

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      • idodoyouride · March 9, 2016

        no, unfortunately it doesn’t get better only worse.

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      • Gale A. Molinari · March 9, 2016

        Yup

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  3. marilynmunrow · March 8, 2015

    Reblogged this on Marilyn Munrow and commented:
    Wonderful post. I love both yours and Otters blogs. You are both very caring and kind individuals, who are trying to help others with the same plight that we have. WE all have been the victims of narcissistic and stalking behaviour. It is not easy to move on, but it is very possible. Thank you for this post.

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  4. Gale A. Molinari · March 8, 2015

    Thank you I am happy to be as I am. Being self serving and self involved must be miserable and totally exhausting. Besides sooner or later it all fades and they die usually alone and bitter.

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  5. Gale A. Molinari · March 8, 2015

    Thank you for the reblogs

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  6. made58 · March 8, 2015

    Reblogged this on HelpingOthersHelpThemselves.

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  7. cherished79 · March 8, 2015

    Reblogged this on living in stigma.

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  8. luckyotter · March 8, 2015

    Reblogged this on The Lucky Otter's Museum of Narcissism and commented:
    Kind of a followup of yesterday’s rant about how I was played for a fool by someone I wanted to make an exception for due to my “malignant optimism.” A good post by a great friend and supporter. Thought I’d share it. I hope my friend doesn’t mind.

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  9. irenedesign2011 · March 9, 2015

    You are describing a narc so good here, very well done and great that you support our otter.
    I’m not able to like your post through my Android today, but you got a new follower 😉

    Liked by 1 person

    • Gale A. Molinari · March 9, 2015

      Thank you Otter was one of the first blogs that supported me. She does a great service to victims of narcissists and I have a lot of respect for her. Welcome to my little world. Hope you are entertained.

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      • irenedesign2011 · March 9, 2015

        Thank you. I have followed our friend for long time and she is good for writing and to follow up.

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  10. Janice Wald · April 3, 2015

    Hi Gale!
    I came over from Reflections to thank you for following my blog!
    Janice

    Liked by 1 person

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