I just read a very eloquent article by a really brilliant woman. You may know her.
This is her article I did reblog but I wanted to go further than that. What made this wonderful, caring brilliant woman care about an avowed narcissist who openly has great distain for women and people in general? She really cared about him and thought she could help him. This exact nature of hers to care about others is what entrapped her in his web. Back an forth he supported then he withdrew. He found out about her interest in narcissism from Googling his own name for heaven sake!! I made an innocuous comment and of course like the humorless narcissist he is he took offense. Instead of telling me off he went after her and blamed her for my words. If you are so proud of yourself being an uncaring narc what do you care what some elderly lady that is friends with her and has a little blog says? Was it worth attacking a person that genuinely cared about you? Really? How really shallow can a person be.
I feel sorry for him. I genuinely feel sorry for people that are so very self involved they can’t let others in that might care. They might even be a lesson in humanity but since he is a self involved narc which if his movie is to be believed is not really the case (yes I watched it I find him interesting too. kind of like an exotic bug be careful you don’t get bitten!). It is really unclear what he is tests have shown he is not a true narcissist. I assume it is convenient to be one when you are an author and authority on all the narcissists in the entire world. Also when you want to sell books taking advantage of an admirer doesn’t hurt either.
Women who find these sorts attractive are usually carers. They are nurturers. When the relationship starts they are worshipped and adored. The sociopath/narcissist can read people very easily and they mirror whatever their prey wants to see. It is not the woman’s fault. Once the relationship gets going she is the supplier, the stroker of ego, the validation of their God like obsession with themselves. They find themselves isolated as the puppet master is now in charge and wants no one to interfere. If the object refuses to do this and to worship them as they feel they must they are abandoned on a whim (or the remark of a smart ass friend). I have never wanted to hurt anyone with my humor I use it more to show the ridiculousness of a situation. I am also sorry he is so self involved that he hurt a lady that was nothing but kind to him and cared. It is his very great loss.
His Achilles heel is someone who cares and eventually he tears them apart and throws them away as valueless. After all who could care about someone like him? He thinks he is the one of no value. You see you really can’t hide the truth from yourself sooner or later it will surface. Maybe he will face it one day but I doubt it. He is having too good a time being miserable. Even with a damaged brain that does not function normally caring about others can be perceived and imitated. The Narcissist does a good job of that when they are drawing in their prey. Maybe he could use that same talent to join in the world and enjoy some of it. Treating people like puppets in a play must get really old after awhile. We can only hope as he is aging that he gets that clue. As for Otter she learned a lesson and will move on. No doubt helping others that deserve the help.