My brilliant friends also have Aspergers

Aspergers girl

Aspergers another form of autism is not well understood. Because people with Aspergers can have trouble communicating they can be assumed to be unintelligent and strange. The exact opposite is true. Because of social media I have had the pleasure of meeting two wonderfully talented women that also happen to have Aspergers. One on Word Press who has been a mentor and great supporter, the other a fabulously talented kind young lady on Facebook. Because of the nature of social media they can be more comfortable and are really able to portray themselves as they truly are without the shadow of preconceived ideas.
asperger bullies
Some of these ideas are hateful, harmful and untrue and also damaging to the psyche.

http://aspergerstest.net/aspergers-in-adults/

Here is a website among many explaining Aspergers syndrome. While Aspies (as they refer to themselves) may have challenges they also excel in other things that take intense concentration and dedication. Forming relationships can be difficult but they are also kind people that need the same interaction but at their pace that the rest of us do.

The cause of Aspergers is unknown although recent research has found there may be a genetic component. There is no cure so they must learn to navigate the world in their own way.

One of the most intelligent writers I have ever read is here on Word Press. Her written skills belie any problems she may have in physical verbal communication. My other friend communicates through her art and she is an extremely talented artist. I am proud to say that they are my friends.

http://luckyottershaven.com/

This is my writer friend I suggest you follow her blog. She had lots to say and says it brilliantly.

14 comments

  1. Faraday's Candle · March 5, 2015

    Both girls have friends with this syndrome, a label we dislike, and they are the most amazing people ever. The risk they have to take to make friends, to find their place is admirable. The best part is they(sisters) do not care what their friends have been labeled with. They never say my friend with….. they just say, “my friend”

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    • Gale A. Molinari · March 5, 2015

      Then you have shown wisdom in how to navigate the world. People are more than labels and we need to look beyond those. Your girls are way ahead of some adults.

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  2. luckyotter · March 5, 2015

    Absolutely amazing! It’s so wonderful to see someone write about the positive aspects of Aspergers and how it gives its “victim” a depth and understanding and focus neurotypicals do not have. There is a growing community of people with Aspergers who have started an “Aspie rights” movement who’s aim is to get Aspergers removed from the DSM as a mental illness and stopped being considered a handicap, disability, or even a form of mental retardation (which its more severe forms are often confused with). Aspies are not retarded. Some of the most brilliant people in history have had Aspergers (Einstein himself) and were thought to be unintelligent as children because of their slowness in learning social skills. Einstein didn’t talk until he was 3 and his teachers thought he was retarded. Anyway, my point is, because of the Internet (on which Aspies thrive–more so than in the physical world) Aspergers is slowly losing its status as a mental illness and being recognized as a variation, much like LGBT was considered a mental illness as recently as 1973, but now hardly anyone thinks of it that way anymore.
    Great post! Reblogging. 🙂

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  3. luckyotter · March 5, 2015

    Reblogged this on The Lucky Otter's Museum of Narcissism and commented:
    Gale Molinari http://www.galesmind.com just wrote an amazing article about her Aspie friends, where she points out the ways Aspergers has made these two women even better friends to her than they might otherwise be.

    It’s so wonderful to see someone write about the positive aspects of Aspergers and how this “mental disorder” gives its “victims” a depth and understanding and focus neurotypicals do not have.

    There is a growing community of people with Aspergers who have started an “Aspie rights” movement who’s aim is to get Aspergers removed from the DSM and psychiatric and medical literature as a mental illness and also lobbies for it to stop being considered a handicap, disability, or even a form of mental retardation (which its more severe forms are often confused with). Aspies are not retarded. They also lobby for a more Aspie-friendly world, where for instance, instead of a face to face interview for a job, another application system, such as a Instant Message interview or a written essay can better serve Aspie applicant. Many if not most Aspies have brilliant minds and high intellectual capacity but can do nothing with it because in order to get ahead in the western world (things apparently are easier for Aspies in places like Japan, which doesn’t rely on social gregariousness and aggression), a person must have great social skills and the ability to “think on their feet,” “network” and “schmooze” with higher ups. Aspies cannot do this, so they are often overlooked for promotions or higher level work. Many assume because they don’t communicate well verbally, that they are stupid. That is just one big lie. Because even low functioning people with autism — the ones who have to be institutionalized and cannot care for themselves– are probably extremely intelligent–but have focused ALL their attention and thinking on ONE OR TWO THINGS. Higher functioning people with autism (Aspies) still tend to focus intensely but can attend to the outside world too, if they must, but are not good at it and prefer not to.

    Some of the most brilliant people in history have had Aspergers (Einstein himself) and were thought to be unintelligent as children because of their slowness in learning social skills. Einstein didn’t talk until he was 3 and his teachers thought he was retarded. Anyway, my point is, because of the Internet (on which Aspies thrive–more so than in the physical world) Aspergers is slowly losing its status as a mental illness and being recognized as a variation, much like LGBT was considered a mental illness as recently as 1973, but now hardly anyone thinks of it that way anymore.

    Read on!

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  4. Gale A. Molinari · March 5, 2015

    Thank you Lucky Otter for the reblog and the very kind words. My artist friend asked her friends on Facebook if we could get out the word and share what Aspergers really is. This is for her.

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  5. marilynmunrow · March 5, 2015

    Wow this if a fabulous post sugar.

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  6. marilynmunrow · March 5, 2015

    Reblogged this on Marilyn Munrow and commented:
    I love this post. Its informative, and helpful to anybody who suffers with this disease. I have friends who do, and its not as easy to diagnose as some of the other diseases which fall in this category.

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  7. idioglossiablog · March 5, 2015

    I very much appreciated this post, my baby brother is an Aspie. He is an extraordinary young man and is often misunderstood. G-uno

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  8. D. Parker · March 5, 2015

    Excellent post, Gale. As a Mom of an brilliant and astonishing Aspie, I know how difficult it can be for them to navigate the world. 🙂

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    • Gale A. Molinari · March 5, 2015

      I think that Social media is a God send as they can interact and have the time to be able to gather their thoughts and communicate. Their world indeed must be a difficult one.

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