A sociopath and a narcissist are masters at acting. When they are reeling you in you are the most wonderful, smartest gorgeous thing they have ever known. They live for your every breath, they are your slave. Whether they are a friend or lover they are the absolute best there is. Of course they are they are playing out your every fantasy. With an uncanny ability to see the vulnerable parts of you they hone in on those and mirror the very fantasy you are living in your head. We all have those. We want to be smart, beautiful, unbelievably sexy, the world in which they revolve and orbit. They practice it from the time they are children to manipulate the world they live in. The world to them is just their playpen. The people but dolls to use like Barbie and Ken. They have little to no feelings so they need to project them onto victims. Thrills and feelings are very hard for them to achieve. That is why a lot of them practice BDSM and other sexual practices. It is the only way they can feel. All you are to them is a vehicle to get satisfaction in a world that holds little for them.
They are also very good at being a victim. Their last relationship. Oh they are heartbroken, defeated need your love to be whole again. They were abused, cheated on. You will never meet them. You will never really know the truth.
Then they will isolate you. You are the object of their adoration. Why would you need anyone but them. They might even use money as a tool. If they have it they talk you into giving up work, a career anything to make you more dependent. Once you are then they turn because you are now trapped.
Why do people fall for this? Because they can sniff out the needy, vulnerable and empathetic. They use those traits to pull you in. They feed on them much as a vampire does on the blood of their victims. Even if you don’t have those traits are a strong being they know what is missing they are like blood hounds on the hunt. Everyone has a vulnerability. It could just be a curiosity about an alternative lifestyle. Once they click on that they have you. They can now use this information to embarrass and destroy you.
Part of the entertainment value of the victim is also in destroying them. You need to be destroyed to make them a victim in someone else’s eyes. I had a friend like this she fooled me and she fooled a lot of other people. Looking back I am appalled at how much I believed. I really thought she was a friend for life. When I saw the truth and disengaged from her I was attacked and she attempted to destroy me, my reputation and also that of my friends. She used other people to get to all of my friends as well and destroy them when they saw through her act. It happens.
So let this be a cautionary tale. That person you just made friends with is sending gifts, giving fabulous compliments? Could be they are really nice people. It could also so be they are sociopaths or narcissists. It is easy to fall in their traps. Look at their past relationships. Did they part quietly? Are they still friends with exes or are they on a path to destroy them?
Before you judge the victims of narcissists and sociopaths look deep inside. We all have psychic wounds, needs what makes you so different?