Why don’t they see the truth.

betrayed by love

A sociopath and a narcissist are masters at acting. When they are reeling you in you are the most wonderful, smartest gorgeous thing they have ever known. They live for your every breath, they are your slave. Whether they are a friend or lover they are the absolute best there is. Of course they are they are playing out your every fantasy. With an uncanny ability to see the vulnerable parts of you they hone in on those and mirror the very fantasy you are living in your head. We all have those. We want to be smart, beautiful, unbelievably sexy, the world in which they revolve and orbit. They practice it from the time they are children to manipulate the world they live in. The world to them is just their playpen. The people but dolls to use like Barbie and Ken. They have little to no feelings so they need to project them onto victims. Thrills and feelings are very hard for them to achieve. That is why a lot of them practice BDSM and other sexual practices. It is the only way they can feel. All you are to them is a vehicle to get satisfaction in a world that holds little for them.

They are also very good at being a victim. Their last relationship. Oh they are heartbroken, defeated need your love to be whole again. They were abused, cheated on.  You will never meet them. You will never really know the truth.

Then they will isolate you. You are the object of their adoration. Why would you need anyone but them. They might even use money as a tool. If they have it they talk you into giving up work, a career anything to make you more dependent. Once you are then they turn because you are now trapped.

Why do people fall for this? Because they can sniff out the needy, vulnerable and empathetic. They use those traits to pull you in. They feed on them much as a vampire does on the blood of their victims. Even if you don’t have those traits are a strong being they know what is missing they are like blood hounds on the hunt. Everyone has a vulnerability. It could just be a curiosity about an alternative lifestyle. Once they click on that they have you. They can now use this information to embarrass and destroy you.

Part of the entertainment value of the victim is also in destroying them. You need to be destroyed to make them a victim in someone else’s eyes. I had a friend like this she fooled me and she fooled a lot of other people. Looking back I am appalled at how much I believed. I really thought she was a friend for life. When I saw the truth and disengaged from her I was attacked and she attempted to destroy me, my reputation and also that of my friends. She used other people to get to all of my friends as well and destroy them when they saw through her act. It happens.

So let this be a cautionary tale. That person you just made friends with is sending gifts, giving fabulous compliments? Could be they are really nice people. It could also so be they are sociopaths or narcissists. It is easy to fall in their traps. Look at their past relationships. Did they part quietly? Are they still friends with exes or are they on a path to destroy them?

Before you judge the victims of narcissists and sociopaths look deep inside. We all have psychic wounds, needs what makes you so different?

32 comments

  1. Human Interest · February 25, 2015

    Reblogged this on Human Interest.

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  2. juliemontgommerynews · February 25, 2015

    Wow, ok. Always when I read these things about narcissists and sociopaths I am left in real dirth of an understanding or any true psychological breakdown of what their traits are. Born bad? Abused? Turn against the world? I sometimes think that the people who use these labels are at a lack to explain behaviour, and that these labels fit a connundrum or a situation that they don’t want to face. May I be proved wrong.

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    • Gale A. Molinari · February 25, 2015

      http://luckyottershaven.com/2014/11/19/sam-vaknin-narcissist-or-narcissist-wannabe/
      This is probably the best blog about narcissists. I have done some research and a brain scan of one of the most famous Sam Vaknin shows that there are parts of the brain that just don’t function in him. Nature or nurture I think the jury is still out but which ever they are the pattern is one that a lot of these characters follow. Sociopaths are another type and then you have psychopaths. My own theory is there is a fault in the brain made worse by the person’s upbringing. If you have a narcissist with those tendencies with parents that reinforce it then he or she will become more narcissistic. A sociopath just doesn’t have much empathy. I think they are born that way and are then encouraged in the home to feel that only they matter. There is a lot of research out there and I find the subject fascinating.

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      • juliemontgommerynews · February 25, 2015

        Empathy with what though? Thanks for 5he link.

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      • Gale A. Molinari · February 25, 2015

        Empathy for anything. They cannot understand feelings.
        Or rather other peoples feelings.

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  3. tripleclicka · February 25, 2015

    Reblogged this on A Bridge Condemned Like Me… and commented:
    No one in the Warden’s life will ever meet me, or at least that is the way it seems now. I never got to meet his wife before me. The story about me now is the same as the story he told about her, exactly.

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  4. novonay · February 25, 2015

    Interesting piece.Thank you for sharing.The brief analysis of character traits & behaviors of narcissists and sociopaths presented in this piece was very informative.

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  5. idodoyouride · March 1, 2015

    good post thanks

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  6. Scarlett · April 2, 2015

    You just described my recent experience during the last 9 month ordeal with a female narcissist who zeroed in on, and chose me to be her BFF whether I liked it or not. I was stalked mercilessly by this woman who demanded my attention focused on her complaints, problems, health issues, daily drama, and how hard her life is, almost 24/7, via e-mails, phone calls and coming to my apt. I try to be loving and nice to people, and I guess this made me an easy target, but this woman was such that you either had to learn to say no to, or be consumed. I’ve never met anyone as pushy and aggressive as her..
    I have finally managed to disengage, (escape), and get my life back, but am still a bit shell shocked and nervous she will start up again, and that I may hear a knock on the door, or answer the phone and it will be her. And yes, of course, I have now made myself her enemy because…………..fill in the blanks. It could never be about any fault of hers, since she is “full of love, goodness and compassion”..(her words) .
    You will never be able to change these people so don’t even try…and you can’t “love” them out of it. If they are trying to own you, the only thing you can and should do is get as far away from them as possible and simply pray for them. It’s sure not God’s will for us to allow anyone to take over our lives and become parasitical of all our time and energies He has to come first, not the narcissist.

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    • Gale A. Molinari · April 2, 2015

      If she does it again go to the police for a restraining order. I would call and see if you can get one now. Sounds like an unbalanced individual to me and that is never a good thing. Protect yourself.

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      • Scarlett · April 2, 2015

        Unbalanced without a doubt. My guess is that she’ll find another victim. She’s not bugging me since she’s not getting the feedback from me that she wants. It’s not being mean on my part, it’s simply survival!
        Ya know, it’s strange, but my policy for years is to “guard your inner circle” of friends, and who you allow into your life, To only allow those personal, close, relationships in that add true value to your life. It is still my policy and best advice to everyone. Nevertheless, this one slipped in on me at a very vulnerable time. I’m going to work on never letting this happen again.
        Thanks for that great post, and for listening to my vent.

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  7. marilynmunrow · May 26, 2015

    Reblogged this on Marilyn Munrow and commented:
    In my case it was beware of fake friends bearing gifts

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  8. Gale A. Molinari · May 26, 2015

    Reblogged this on galesmind and commented:

    Just as true now as when I first posted it. Thanks to the reblogs I read it again. Thank you friends.

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  9. Gale A. Molinari · May 26, 2015

    Thank you for the reblog and reminding me of this post. Yes, it was also my experience that fake friends bearing gifts can be snakes in disguise. Maybe others will benefit from our experience.

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  10. irenedesign2011 · May 26, 2015

    Great post 🙂
    No matter we are talking narcissists or sociopaths, no one of them own any kind of empathy, they are born without….. I have known both kinds much too close and they destroy all they come close to.
    Stay far away from these type of monsters.

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    • Gale A. Molinari · May 26, 2015

      Sometimes they are hard to identify. Sociopaths, for example, mirror what you are. They fake empathy and sympathy. Some like ours are really good at it.

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      • irenedesign2011 · May 26, 2015

        You are right. I think it can help to try to involve them in an emphatic case as not are relevant to me, just to test them without I need to show my own feelings about this for me neutral case. This need to be done in the very beginning.

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      • Gale A. Molinari · May 26, 2015

        Most telling is their treatment of others.

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      • irenedesign2011 · May 26, 2015

        Exactly 😉

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  11. idodoyouride · May 26, 2015

    i shared your story in my private group i created on facebook with over 2, 200 people. its a support group for survivors of sociopaths. spreading the word. thank you good post.

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    • Gale A. Molinari · May 26, 2015

      I am honored you might like to look over my blog for other posts on the subject.

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      • idodoyouride · May 26, 2015

        i will for sure. i have my own little blog on the subject but have a hard time writing still i do better in my group. lol ill check it out . thank you

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      • Gale A. Molinari · May 26, 2015

        You are welcome to anything on my blog that will help.

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      • Gale A. Molinari · May 26, 2015

        Check the poetry series Obsession and other poems many have a psychological and sociological base.

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      • idodoyouride · May 26, 2015

        i will thank you so much im always searching for new material for the group.

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      • Gale A. Molinari · May 26, 2015

        The poetry is usually cautionary.

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    • Gale A. Molinari · May 26, 2015

      Perhaps you will share my link. Blogging can be very helpful and there are other wonderful blogs on the subject.

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