Anger used by the sociopath and narcissist

anger and control

Sociopaths, narcissists and others like to use anger as a weapon. If they can incite you to anger they can control you. That is what it is all about. Control.

The narcissist in particular hates being ignored so will do anything to provoke a fight. Insults and lies are their favorite weapons. Don’t fall for it. You are the one that will suffer. These people feel nothing. In order to feel they must ratchet up emotion and they do that by inflaming situations and getting a reaction. They will attack for no reason and the victim’s first instinct is to protect themselves. These people feed on that reaction.

Anger can cause mental and physical harm. It brings out the basic flight or fight instincts and can increase heart rate and diminish the ability to think. A person without this response of course has the upper hand and will use it.

Next time someone intentionally tries to make you angry stop and think. Counting to ten can really help or twenty. Why are they doing it? Why can’t a measured reasonable response work? You might have a reason to suspect that you are being set upon for another’s amusement. Don’t fall for it.


  1. lbeth1950 · December 28, 2014

    I certainly lived through this with my father. You are dead on. Learned very early it was useless to explain or defend myself. It just prolonged the misery. Apologies were viewed as weakness. So good to be free.

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    • Gale A. Molinari · December 28, 2014

      Exactly and some of them get a real kick out of seeing other spit and stew. It is better to put your distance instead of engaging and being hurt.

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  2. marilynmunrow · January 24, 2015

    Reblogged this on Marilyn Munrow and commented:
    It is a basic reaction to react with anger, but sometimes it is even better then counting to ten, to just try to walk away from a narcissist especially, as this makes them more angry and mad. But they dont know how to cope with it.


  3. made58 · January 24, 2015

    Reblogged this on HelpingOthersHelpThemselves.


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