Courage in admiration of a friend

courage brave lion

Just read a blog post from Allylakeside.

She is my friend but I had no idea the hell she had been through before I knew her. She survived and is a fighter today. Many times she has gotten attacked for standing up for others yet doesn’t let that slow her down one iota. Along with her difficult past she has physical issues that she fights every day. She does this with a deliciously wicked sense of humor.

Many women that are in similar situations dry up and blow away. Not my friend. She stands up and roars like a lion. From a shy abused girl to a young woman denigrated and made to feel less than a person she rose like a phoenix. I am in awe.

I hope that this post is shared far and wide as it will show those that are in similar circumstances there is hope and to get out from under these abusive situations.

We never know what is going on behind closed doors. Those people that seem so together so calm and kind can be monsters in private. Be aware of others. If you see a young woman that looks beaten down and afraid please speak out. You might save a life.

Psychopaths, narcissists and sociopaths do not change. EVER. They need to denigrate others to feel alive and in control. They don’t stop with just being mildly abusive. When they see that they can control and manipulate people they push and push. Further and further down until there is little left of the original person.

They are geniuses at seeking out damaged, needy souls too. They isolate them until they have complete control. This is how they live.

There are several of my friends that have escaped similar circumstances. One was almost murdered by her husband before she escaped. This is a terrible problem in our society and as long as we have people that consider other people less than human it will continue.

Lest you think that it is only women that are abused in this manner many men are also victims. They are afraid to speak out because in our society they are the object of fun that they cannot stand up to a woman. A deranged, jealous partner is the same male or female and must be feared.

Psychopaths and narcissistic sociopaths live among us. The more I am on Word Press the more I see of this. Facebook is riddled with those that take advantage of others whether using them to attack others or scam money out of them. Be aware of the signs and put distance between yourself and them.  If you are in a relationship with another person and they try to isolate you, denigrate you GET OUT. People who love and respect others do not isolate, denigrate or manipulate them. Stay safe my friends.

courage and dignity


  1. ally1lakeside · November 26, 2014

    Wow! I didn’t write my blog for any other purpose than to inspire people. Anyone in similar situations might find the fight to leave; one thing I did omit from my blog is that Gary’s mistress who became wife no. 2 used to beat him and knock him about so Karma worked there too. xxx

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  2. sonniq · December 19, 2014

    After my father passed away, a few years later my mother met a man, who after working his way into her life, started physically punching her around and tried to take over her successful business. She was in her early 60’s and was too ashamed to tell anyone until he beat her face so badly she couldn’t say accidentally ran into a cupboard door. It took the police and a court date to get rid of him. That experience made her an advocate for other women. It also made her sensitive enough that by seeing someone, just looking at them, she knew they needed someone to talk to. Everything we go through in life is a lesson. If we don’t learn from it we are doomed to repeat it. It is our karma. Everything happens for a reason.


  3. sonniq · December 19, 2014

    Here is a different issue. I don’t if you have written about it. Gossip. I hate it. You could write a long post about it. I live in a senior community. Mostly wonderful people and good friends. But many of them have too much time on their hands. They talk about reach other. Rumors get spread. Told often enough it becomes truth. When I hear negative things being said about someone I go make friends with them to find out who they really are. No matter who you are, if you judge someone by what other people say and take it as truth, what you aren’t hearing is “the other side of the story”. There is always another side, another perception. If you’re going to pass gossip at least make it factual, unless you enjoy being negative and cruel or you want to be the first person who “knows something” nobody else does.


    • Gale A. Molinari · December 24, 2014

      You are so right and my attitude about gossip is that if you can talk about someone else like that what are you saying when I am not there.


  4. marilynmunrow · March 1, 2015

    Reblogged this on Marilyn Munrow and commented:
    I too am a very close friend of AllyLakeside. She is one of the most courageous and kind, caring people i ever met. She is a warrior, as i am, and she stood by my side in my fight against cyberbullies and harassment. She is a wonderful person, who i am proud to call my dear friend. THIS IS WHAT A TRUE FRIEND IS. SOMEBODY WHO WILL STAND WITH YOU, EVEN WHEN THE ODDS ARE AGAINST YOU. Thank you my wonderful Friend.


  5. Gale A. Molinari · April 26, 2015

    Reblogged this on galesmind and commented:

    I think I need to share this story again.


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