You cannot win with a narcissist sometimes the best thing is to just walk away. You cannot make them understand how you feel because they just cannot wrap their minds around anyone else having feelings. It just is not in their makeup to empathize with any one else. They will take no responsibility for their actions as they really feel they are always right. When you live in your own orbit you cannot see beyond it. If they are caught it is someone else’s fault they cannot be at fault they are perfect. The sad part of a narcissist is that they really will never have a real relationship they are handicapped in that way. Empaths are attracted to the narcissist they want to be needed and wanted. The narcissist will latch on to that and use it. They will bleed an empath dry and then shut down to them. This is torture to the empath and to fix it they will assume that they are wrong. They need to be fixed. Meanwhile the narcissist will feed that by telling their target that you make me behave like this I really don’t want to but you make me. If you were thinner, more voluptuous, talked more, talked less, were more adventurous sexually then you would fulfill me. You don’t so you are at fault.
Trying to feed a narcissists ego is like trying to dig a hole at the beach. It will never be filled, it will never be enough. A narcissist needs someone to feed their ego so they get someone that needs to nurture to be helpful. The kindest people are usually their victims. A stronger person will step out and go wait a minute what about me? My needs? My ego? As soon as that happens the narcissist will disengage. It isn’t about them so they aren’t interested.
It might be painful but in order to get your life, your ego, your individuality you will need to leave a person like this. If your relationship is based solely on one person then you need to walk away. You are special there will never be another you. Never ever let another person’s needs become so paramount that you fade away. If someone loves you and respects you
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